Not the right time. Not ready.

Not the right time. Not ready.

Gardening requires patience.

It takes months for seeds to crack open in the earth and start growing their first green shoots.

In those dark months, important work is taking place below the surface.

Though nothing is visible yet, the gardener trusts in the process, knowing she’ll soon see signs of life.

We accept this about the earth, yet we’re not so tolerant with ourselves. 

Hardwired to believe in masculine ideals of success, we expect results to come through hard work and a push for certain outcomes. If those results fail to arrive within an allotted timeline we believe we’ve failed and need a different strategy.

With no patience to wait for our seeds to sprout, we start digging up the whole garden so we can start over.

I’ve learned through growing a business that the times I wanted to retreat and tear everything down because it wasn’t working, were when I most needed to expand and trust fully in my vision.

That the insecurity I was feeling was not a sign I should run back to the safety of a job, but to commit to what I’d already planted and have faith that my garden would grow and thrive.

It’s not always easy to have faith in the quiet call of your inner knowing.

It often makes no practical sense. It suggests the path less travelled rather than the safer option. 

But the reaction in my body will always reveal the truth. When it’s a feeling of lightness and possibility, it’s a big fat cosmic yes.

When you decide to follow that call and throw yourself into your career, business and life wholeheartedly, your relationship to risk changes dramatically. You’re driven more by excitement than fear. You see that your happiness is not some distant ideal, but available in the here and now.

If you’re ignoring those niggles and dreams because they don’t seem practical, think about what kind of life your self-doubt is handing you.

And what might be possible if you trusted yourself instead.

You’re not here to watch life from the sidelines.

The time is now, and you are ready.

If you need support to bring your dreams to fruition or get clear on what’s next for you, I’m currently accepting new clients for my three month coaching program. Sign up here for a preliminary chat, or book a career coaching appointment (available in person at Malvern or via Zoom).

 

Important Update + Upcoming Melbourne Workshop

Important Update + Upcoming Melbourne Workshop

This week’s post is coming to you in the form of a VLOG, very unusually for me I know!

I’ve come out from behind my screen because I have an exciting update for you and I also want to let you know about my upcoming event, the Transform your Career Workshop which is happening in September. If you’ve been feeling a bit lost with your career and you’re not sure where to go from here, I’d love you to join me for a nurturing, fun evening in Melbourne.

No time to watch? All the important info is listed below! See you in Melbourne on the 25th!

If you have questions about anything I mentioned in the video, please drop me a line.

Interested in coming along to the Transform your Career Workshop? Book your ticket here.

Keen to chat one on one? Book in for a Free Career Breakthrough Consult with me.

Or download my free 4-Step Guide to Finding the Right Job.

Can’t wait to see you in Melbourne! Stay tuned on Facebook for an upcoming Lunch and Learn on What to do if you’re not a specialist. Perfect for those of you who describe yourself as a ‘jack of all trades’.

If you can’t watch the video just now, here are the main takeaways:

Webinars + Additional Skype + Face to Face Appointments Available

I’m excited to be stepping into my business full-time in September which means I’ll be around to offer you more support with your career. You can expect more webinars, lunch and learn’s and workshops as well as additional availability for appointments. You can book appointments via Skype or face to face (my office is in Hawthorn, Melbourne). Enquire now.

Open for Bookings: Transform your Career Workshop, Tuesday 25th September

My first workshop in over a year is happening in Melbourne. Join us on Tuesday 25th September for the Transform your Career workshop at 6pm. During this workshop I’ll be teaching the 4-step career transformation process that I work through with my clients (and that I still use myself). This will help you activate your dreams, discover a new sense of direction and purpose and take action on your goals. Book here.

Spring Special on Coaching Program (available for first 3 bookings)

As part of my move into full-time business I do some pro bono work with a local charity, but I also wanted to do something for you too. Which is why I’m offering a spring special to the first three clients to sign up for my 4 week coaching program in September. Book a free Career Breakthrough Consult with me if you’re interested in working together.

Got questions that you’d like me to cover in my upcoming lunch and learn’s on Facebook? Please drop me a line. I’d love to hear from you!

Are you showing up?

Are you showing up?

During a coaching session, a client once mentioned how she would need to have her ‘game face’ on for an upcoming interview.

Why do you need a game face? I asked. That sounds like hard work.

What? You mean I can just be myself, she asked.

We both laughed.

It’s important to be authentic of course, but no one ever said it was easy.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all just told the truth?

If you’re looking to make positive changes in your career, it’s so important to let go of the need to control how you’re received.

There’s an innate drive within us to please others to protect ourselves from being thrown out of the tribe, but we need to resist the urge to mould ourselves into what we believe others want to see. Otherwise we’ll never be free.

To accept the promotion. Give up the successful law career to become a teacher. Start the business of your dreams. Or ask for the long-overdue pay rise.

Our success depends on our willingness to detach from how others might view us so that we can be who we are.

Truthfully this is more of a constant shedding than an instant change but you can make shifts surprisingly quickly.

Here is the advice that’s helped me the most:

1) Take nothing personally.

This is a nugget from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements and there are few things I’ve learned that have been more valuable.

When you release yourself from reacting personally to events. ‘The interviewer hated me.’ ‘My boss didn’t ask for my opinion in that meeting.’ ‘My friend didn’t call when I was sick.’ You let go of the stories you make up in your head, most of which are not true but which cause enormous suffering.

By the way, I still catch myself out with this so remember, humans are meaning-making machines and we are hard-wired to make up stories, so don’t be hard on yourself. The main thing is to recognise when you do it and then let it go.

2) Focus on how you show up instead.

How can you show up authentically and let yourself be seen? Which action will make you feel as though you’re doing the right thing by yourself.

When I say this I don’t mean that you should go and blow off your commitments without a care. It’s more about behaving in a way that’s in alignment with your values and true self.

For example, if you know that being honest about the challenges in your previous role is going to make you feel like less of a fraud in the job interview then tell your truth. Let go of the need to control the outcome. Newsflash: you can’t do that anyway!

There are so many situations where letting go of the need to control what others think can lead you into a greater connection to your true self.

Like networking situations that cause worry and stress over whether you are good enough.

Or social events. Or apologising when you feel you need to. Or telling someone how you really feel about them.

When you practice this way of being, it will change how you approach everything.

You will feel braver and truer.

Admittedly it’s not the easiest option out there.

Far easier to put on your game face, though in the long run a lot more costly.

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