The magic of setting bigger goals

The magic of setting bigger goals

Many of the women I talk to have brilliant ideas and do amazing work.

Some have started work on career changes, film scripts or business plans.

Then they hit some kind of snag. Plans go on ice. Projects gather dust in a drawer.

Others are building businesses but not seeing the results they’d hoped for.

Convinced they don’t know the solution, they get stuck and can’t move forward.

This kind of procrastination can be physically painful (you know when you feel sick even thinking about it?), which of course leads us to avoid the work even more.

Luckily there is something you can do.

Create a bigger goal.

You might think this sound simplistic. Illogical even. But it works every time.

If you think about it, when your goal is something you think you can easily achieve, it’s actually not that motivating.

It can even be a little depressing.

You might beat yourself up for not having this more attainable goal yet because by rights you should have it. This leads to pushing, grasping and ultimately staying stuck even longer.

When you set a bigger goal on the other hand, you create a bigger container to step into.

There’s a feeling expansion and possibility that wasn’t there before.

It feels freeing and exciting. It kicks up your motivation and your vibration and you start to see new possibilities for success, opportunities that didn’t occur to you before.

When you set a goal that’s at the edge of what you think you can achieve, you also show up in a much bigger way.

It’s like switching a light onto full beam, your path seems clearer.

It’s no accident that when you set your sights higher, your results also accelerate and expand. They can’t but respond to the change in your energy.

It doesn’t mean everything will go smoothly, but you’ll be motivated enough to deal with the inevitable challenges.

And you’ll be showing up as your biggest best self each and every day.

Do that consistently enough, and no goal will be too big.    

PS: If you need support to make your dream goal or intention happen, book a call with me to discuss how we can work together. Please fill out the form to schedule a time or book an appointment online here.

Not the right time. Not ready.

Not the right time. Not ready.

Gardening requires patience.

It takes months for seeds to crack open in the earth and start growing their first green shoots.

In those dark months, important work is taking place below the surface.

Though nothing is visible yet, the gardener trusts in the process, knowing she’ll soon see signs of life.

We accept this about the earth, yet we’re not so tolerant with ourselves. 

Hardwired to believe in masculine ideals of success, we expect results to come through hard work and a push for certain outcomes. If those results fail to arrive within an allotted timeline we believe we’ve failed and need a different strategy.

With no patience to wait for our seeds to sprout, we start digging up the whole garden so we can start over.

I’ve learned through growing a business that the times I wanted to retreat and tear everything down because it wasn’t working, were when I most needed to expand and trust fully in my vision.

That the insecurity I was feeling was not a sign I should run back to the safety of a job, but to commit to what I’d already planted and have faith that my garden would grow and thrive.

It’s not always easy to have faith in the quiet call of your inner knowing.

It often makes no practical sense. It suggests the path less travelled rather than the safer option. 

But the reaction in my body will always reveal the truth. When it’s a feeling of lightness and possibility, it’s a big fat cosmic yes.

When you decide to follow that call and throw yourself into your career, business and life wholeheartedly, your relationship to risk changes dramatically. You’re driven more by excitement than fear. You see that your happiness is not some distant ideal, but available in the here and now.

If you’re ignoring those niggles and dreams because they don’t seem practical, think about what kind of life your self-doubt is handing you.

And what might be possible if you trusted yourself instead.

You’re not here to watch life from the sidelines.

The time is now, and you are ready.

If you need support to bring your dreams to fruition or get clear on what’s next for you, I’m currently accepting new clients for my three month coaching program. Sign up here for a preliminary chat, or book a career coaching appointment (available in person at Malvern or via Zoom).

 

The Joy of Rest + New Mindfulness Workshop

The Joy of Rest + New Mindfulness Workshop

Are you enjoying the silly season?

I’ve always loved the build up to the holidays but this year I’ve been feeling more fatigued than usual. 

The overload was getting a bit much last week so I took the day off and went for a walk in the park, read a book, watched Netflix and napped. It was heaven.

I felt so much better and more energised the next day. It’s funny how even though I know I should rest more when I’m busy, I almost need to give myself permission to prioritise it.

We put so much focus on how we spend our holidays, yet what’s really important is how we manage the crazy busy periods of our lives.

Like choosing to meditate or put your feet up when you’re flat out, not because you can squeeze five minutes into your schedule, but because it’s important for living a good life.

For many of us crazy busy is our lives, or a good chunk of it.

What choices are you making about your life?

This is your reminder to pause or at least slow down this week.

If you can’t see a way to make this happen, ask yourself these questions:

  • What are my real do-or-die priorities this week?
  • What could I not do that no one will even notice, apart from me?
  • Where am I making things hard for myself? Maybe trying too hard to please others?
  • What am I craving more of, and how can I do some of it this week?

Maybe you need a massage or a lunch with friends. Or maybe you need time out on the sofa. If so, I’m giving you permission to go watch Dumplin’ on Netflix right now.

In the meantime if you want to book some future ‘me’ time, I want to invite you to my Mindfulness + Intention Setting Workshop on Saturday 19th Januaryat Happy Melon Studios, Armadale.

This relaxing and informal workshop is ideal if you want to create aligned intentions for next year, and learn strategies to help you create positive changes in your life. Book here.

Whatever you’re up to over the break, I want to wish you a very restful, merry and joy-filled holiday season 🙂

You’re not confused.

You’re not confused.

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.’ Siddhārtha Gautama

How often do you stop yourself from making changes in your life because you don’t know what to do?

Sometimes it’s appropriate to take time out and reflect on our dreams and desires, so we can find our sense of direction again.

Most of the time though this confusion is not even real. It’s just a construct of the mind, an attachment to the need to know everything now.

Confusion helps to keep us safe. It clouds our judgement and prevents us from making decisions that lead us to something new.

Not sure if this is what’s going on for you?

Ask yourself if you have a pattern of putting your plans on hold because you feel confused about what to do next.

The confusion is caused by a false assumption because of course we can never be certain about the choices we make.

But the confusion feels real. So how can you shift out of this state?

Start to notice where it stops you and investigate what’s really going on. Is it an underlying fear? A lack of confidence? Or just an old story about not knowing what to do?

Whatever you discover, make a conscious decision to let it go.

It’s safe to make choices without knowing how things will turn out.

Just tell yourself, I am no longer confused.

Let the fog lift. How does it feel to be free?

You know what to do. You always did. Let truth whisper the answer in your ear.

PS: If you need some help to find your direction, there are still some tickets left for my Transform your Career workshop on Tuesday. We’ll be working on dreams, desires and important mindset shifts for change. Book your spot here.

Stay on the road

Stay on the road

A couple of years after I moved to Melbourne I finally got myself a car.

There was no such as thing as Google Maps back then, and relying solely on the Melways (remember Melways?) and my gut instinct, I was forever lost and running late.

The same thing was happening to a friend who had migrated from the US but her response was different to mine.

Where I would panic, get off at the nearest exit and make myself even later by driving around in circles, my friend would just stay on the road.

So how does that work out for you? I wanted to know.

Well the worst that can happen is I discover a part of Melbourne I didn’t know before, she said. But I know I’ll eventually find a sign and figure out where I’m going.

It struck me as a much better strategy for navigating the freeway system.

Stay on the road. Watch out for signs. Just keep driving.

There are times in our lives when we all feel a bit lost.

Maybe you know you need to make changes in your life, but you can’t see the possibilities yet.

We crave certainty and navigating the mystery of not knowing what’s next can be tough.

It’s also the time when we’re prone to making decisions we later regret, by forcing answers to our questions when they may not be ready to come. We decide it has to be this course, this job or this business idea. We would do anything rather than not know.

Before we make those decisions we need to be conscious of our dreams and what we really want, which is why this forms a core part of the work I do with clients (and also in this upcoming Melbourne workshop).

It’s amazing how unconscious our desires can be. If I told you right now you could have any job you wanted in the world, would you know what to choose? Or would you feel even more lost?

Allowing ourselves to be with the unknown is an important part of the process of change. This is not the same as procrastinating over a decision. Instead we’re allowing new seeds to take root, fresh plans to form. A gestation period is required.

So what can you do when you feel lost?

The best advice I’ve come across is to focus on what you do know about what you want, even if you’re just scraping away a corner to reveal a tiny edge of the big picture.

If you know that you want more freedom or you want to be more creative in your work, ask where can you give yourself that experience now, even if it’s just for one hour a week.

Watch out for signs that you’re on the right track, nudges giving you a heads up about where to explore next. Let curiosity be your guide.

The more you can tune into your internal compass the more oriented you’ll become and this is when the big picture does slowly start to reveal itself.

It requires patience and self-compassion to travel without a map. Feeling lost is a given, wrong turns inevitable.

But if you can stay on the road and resist the urge to turn off at every exit, you might just find yourself on the adventure of your life.

PS: If you’re feeling a bit lost with your career and you’d like to explore these ideas further, join me for the Transform your Career Workshop in Melbourne on 25th September. You can book tickets here.

Important Update + Upcoming Melbourne Workshop

Important Update + Upcoming Melbourne Workshop

This week’s post is coming to you in the form of a VLOG, very unusually for me I know!

I’ve come out from behind my screen because I have an exciting update for you and I also want to let you know about my upcoming event, the Transform your Career Workshop which is happening in September. If you’ve been feeling a bit lost with your career and you’re not sure where to go from here, I’d love you to join me for a nurturing, fun evening in Melbourne.

No time to watch? All the important info is listed below! See you in Melbourne on the 25th!

If you have questions about anything I mentioned in the video, please drop me a line.

Interested in coming along to the Transform your Career Workshop? Book your ticket here.

Keen to chat one on one? Book in for a Free Career Breakthrough Consult with me.

Or download my free 4-Step Guide to Finding the Right Job.

Can’t wait to see you in Melbourne! Stay tuned on Facebook for an upcoming Lunch and Learn on What to do if you’re not a specialist. Perfect for those of you who describe yourself as a ‘jack of all trades’.

If you can’t watch the video just now, here are the main takeaways:

Webinars + Additional Skype + Face to Face Appointments Available

I’m excited to be stepping into my business full-time in September which means I’ll be around to offer you more support with your career. You can expect more webinars, lunch and learn’s and workshops as well as additional availability for appointments. You can book appointments via Skype or face to face (my office is in Hawthorn, Melbourne). Enquire now.

Open for Bookings: Transform your Career Workshop, Tuesday 25th September

My first workshop in over a year is happening in Melbourne. Join us on Tuesday 25th September for the Transform your Career workshop at 6pm. During this workshop I’ll be teaching the 4-step career transformation process that I work through with my clients (and that I still use myself). This will help you activate your dreams, discover a new sense of direction and purpose and take action on your goals. Book here.

Spring Special on Coaching Program (available for first 3 bookings)

As part of my move into full-time business I do some pro bono work with a local charity, but I also wanted to do something for you too. Which is why I’m offering a spring special to the first three clients to sign up for my 4 week coaching program in September. Book a free Career Breakthrough Consult with me if you’re interested in working together.

Got questions that you’d like me to cover in my upcoming lunch and learn’s on Facebook? Please drop me a line. I’d love to hear from you!

Are you showing up?

Are you showing up?

During a coaching session, a client once mentioned how she would need to have her ‘game face’ on for an upcoming interview.

Why do you need a game face? I asked. That sounds like hard work.

What? You mean I can just be myself, she asked.

We both laughed.

It’s important to be authentic of course, but no one ever said it was easy.

Imagine what the world would be like if we all just told the truth?

If you’re looking to make positive changes in your career, it’s so important to let go of the need to control how you’re received.

There’s an innate drive within us to please others to protect ourselves from being thrown out of the tribe, but we need to resist the urge to mould ourselves into what we believe others want to see. Otherwise we’ll never be free.

To accept the promotion. Give up the successful law career to become a teacher. Start the business of your dreams. Or ask for the long-overdue pay rise.

Our success depends on our willingness to detach from how others might view us so that we can be who we are.

Truthfully this is more of a constant shedding than an instant change but you can make shifts surprisingly quickly.

Here is the advice that’s helped me the most:

1) Take nothing personally.

This is a nugget from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements and there are few things I’ve learned that have been more valuable.

When you release yourself from reacting personally to events. ‘The interviewer hated me.’ ‘My boss didn’t ask for my opinion in that meeting.’ ‘My friend didn’t call when I was sick.’ You let go of the stories you make up in your head, most of which are not true but which cause enormous suffering.

By the way, I still catch myself out with this so remember, humans are meaning-making machines and we are hard-wired to make up stories, so don’t be hard on yourself. The main thing is to recognise when you do it and then let it go.

2) Focus on how you show up instead.

How can you show up authentically and let yourself be seen? Which action will make you feel as though you’re doing the right thing by yourself.

When I say this I don’t mean that you should go and blow off your commitments without a care. It’s more about behaving in a way that’s in alignment with your values and true self.

For example, if you know that being honest about the challenges in your previous role is going to make you feel like less of a fraud in the job interview then tell your truth. Let go of the need to control the outcome. Newsflash: you can’t do that anyway!

There are so many situations where letting go of the need to control what others think can lead you into a greater connection to your true self.

Like networking situations that cause worry and stress over whether you are good enough.

Or social events. Or apologising when you feel you need to. Or telling someone how you really feel about them.

When you practice this way of being, it will change how you approach everything.

You will feel braver and truer.

Admittedly it’s not the easiest option out there.

Far easier to put on your game face, though in the long run a lot more costly.

Lean in to what you love

Lean in to what you love

I love to knit.

I picked up a pair of needles a couple of months ago and was instantly smitten.

Of course I’m not particularly skilled at it yet. I haven’t knitted since I was a child and it doesn’t come naturally.

The ladies in the yarn store raise their eyebrows when they seem me coming.

But my new pastime has taught me something important.

The act of creating something with my own hands is so satisfying that the dropped stitches and mis-purled rows don’t mean a thing. I persevere regardless.

I’m not going to tell you that doing what you love will lead to amazing career success.

The truth is that’s pretty unlikely, at least until you become skilled at what you love.

For years I tried in vain to find my passion.

In those days I believed that if I did enough soul searching I’d figure it out.

But my passion wasn’t something that could be figured out by thinking, only through doing. By pursuing new interests, going to new places, meeting new people or even trying out different jobs.

Without pressure or judgement.

Of course there’s an element of risk involved in this approach. You might fail. It may not turn out to be everything you’d hoped.

But when you lean into what you love, even if it’s a hobby, it starts reshaping your attitudes and changing the choices you make in other areas of your life too.

Doing what you love opens you up to more of what you love.

Start with one thing you’re curious to try.

Be prepared to suck at it in the beginning. Be open to enjoying it anyway.

Your passion is not something you accidentally trip over one day like a forgotten pair of shoes in the hallway. It might not cause a light bulb to click on in your head.

It’s something you actively create through the choices you make, day by day and year by year.

If you want to do something you love then my advice is: be curious and let yourself follow that curiosity without judgement.

It may all start with a pair of knitting needles, but you never know where it will lead.

Want more advice like this? You can download my 4 Step Guide to Creating the Right Job here.

Be a lamp, a lifeboat or a ladder.

Be a lamp, a lifeboat or a ladder.

Be a lamp, a lifeboat or a ladder. Help someone’s soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd. ~ Rumi

This is one of my all time favourite quotes.

Because when we focus on being a light to others, it also helps to heal our own pain and I have found this to be very true when it comes to money.

When you experience the joy that comes from contributing to something as part of a collective, whether it’s ending poverty or starting a community project to enhance people’s lives, it can be hugely motivating. You will want to do more, be more and contribute more. It changes your mindset from one of lack and want to one of sufficiency and potential. That’s incredibly powerful. 

This is the real freedom of having a healthy and mindful relationship with your money. Of course it benefits you and your family, but the ripple effect reaches further than we can imagine.

By the way, today is Day 13 of the Money Mindfulness Challenge. If you want to check out the tips I’ve been sharing to help you become more empowered around your finances, you can find them here or here.  

So how can you be a lamp today?

Start looking for opportunities, you’ll find them everywhere once you turn on your antennae.

Maybe it will be sharing your story with someone who is struggling financially, or sponsoring a child. It could be thinking about what kind of role model you want to be for your kids (this has been on my mind a lot lately). 

Please share your ideas in the comments. I’d love to hear them.

This week I’ll be talking about dealing with your biggest financial fears and reclaiming your power around money.

Join the Money Mindfulness 30 Day Challenge

Join the Money Mindfulness 30 Day Challenge

Today is the first day of our Money Mindfulness Challenge and I’m really excited about the lessons I’ll be sharing with you over these next 30 days. It’s been over four years since I started studying my relationship with money and building a healthier attitude towards it. What started as a bid to attract more wealth through money manifesting trainings, gradually evolved into a more mindful way of life that freed me to live in a way that was grounded in sufficiency instead of lack.

Having grown up believing there was never enough money and that money was in fact the work of the devil, it was life changing to realise I had the power to direct what money I had, regardless of how much or how little that was, to make a positive impact on the world. For me this was the missing piece in all of the money trainings that focused on bringing more wealth into your life, they never addressed the effect of our rampant consumerism on the environment. How we spend the money is just as important as what we attract, and when we spend it well, with thought and conscious intent, we infuse that money with positive energy. We give it a soul.

I learned that it’s not just about accumulating wealth so that you can feel secure, it’s about what you do with that money to create a life of meaning for yourself. It’s also about feeling safe that there is enough to go around and that you have the resources and know-how to always take care of yourself.

Over the next 30 days I want to share the lessons that have helped me to cultivate a more positive relationship with money, change my behaviour around it and address my underlying addictions (yes this can be shopping but avoidance is another).

I’m hoping this will help you to build a life of sustainable prosperity and wellbeing. You don’t have to do every single one of these challenges, but I highly recommend the money cleanse which we’ll be starting in week 1. I know frugal living can sound harsh but what I want you to discover as I did, is how incredibly freeing it can be. Having said that, I believe in having fun too so it’s not about spending zero money all month long. But being mindful of your spending is one of the core principles of our work for this challenge. I’ll be doing it right along with you.

Please note too that this course is not about financial advice. I’m a coach not a financial advisor. What I have witnessed through my work is how our views about money can lead us to kill off our dreams. I’ve coached enough women on their careers to see this in action over and over again. We decide that we can’t have what we want because we would never be able to earn enough or we’d have to give up a stable income. It takes courage to deal with these limiting beliefs and take a leap of faith.

If you feel stressed out and anxious around money or if you’re just plain frustrated with never having enough to cover the bills, I want you to join me for the next 30 days. What’s the worst that can happen? Maybe you will save a few dollars or maybe you will create more ease and happiness in your life like I did.

We start with a Full Moon Intention Setting Ritual.

Why? Well I’m a big fan of rituals and as I’ve found, working with the phases of the moon can supercharge your intentions and illuminate your true path. We’re going to be talking about each phase of the moon during the challenge. Tip: If rituals are not your thing, don’t force yourself to do this one. This challenge is all about going with your intuition and what feels right for you.

Here’s what you can use for your ritual (this is totally up to you but here’s what I use):

A Journal

Candles

Crystals

Tarot Decks

Your favourite herbal tea

Now ask yourself this question:

What is the change you want to see this month?

In yourself? And in the world?

This is big so take your time to journal and meditate. If you’re coming up empty, just write the question in your journal and leave it be. The answer will come in due course.

It can help to ask:

What has become intolerable in your life? What are you no longer prepared to put up with? What do you think is blocking you from living the life you want right now?

Your intention could be a circumstance or a certain behaviour or pattern that you recognise in your life. Maybe you can’t keep savings in your bank account or you have a habit of always spending more than you earn and tipping over into debt.

The change you want to see in the world could be as simple as deciding that you will contribute as little as possible to landfill this month. Maybe you start donating to a charity or a cause you care about. Remember that it’s ok to start small. That’s the whole point.

Now that you’ve set your intention, follow along with the lessons on Facebook and Instagram. I’ll be posting daily with the hashtag #moneymindfulnesschallenge. Please follow along and share your own successes, challenges and ideas.

I’ll leave you with a quote from Lynne Twist’s book The Soul of Money that I try to live by:

When you let go of trying to get more of what you don’t really need, it frees up oceans of energy to make a difference with what you have. When you make a difference with what you have, it expands.

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