Are you enjoying the silly season?
I’ve always loved the build up to the holidays but this year I’ve been feeling more fatigued than usual.
The overload was getting a bit much last week so I took the day off and went for a walk in the park, read a book, watched Netflix and napped. It was heaven.
I felt so much better and more energised the next day. It’s funny how even though I know I should rest more when I’m busy, I almost need to give myself permission to prioritise it.
We put so much focus on how we spend our holidays, yet what’s really important is how we manage the crazy busy periods of our lives.
Like choosing to meditate or put your feet up when you’re flat out, not because you can squeeze five minutes into your schedule, but because it’s important for living a good life.
For many of us crazy busy is our lives, or a good chunk of it.
What choices are you making about your life?
This is your reminder to pause or at least slow down this week.
If you can’t see a way to make this happen, ask yourself these questions:
- What are my real do-or-die priorities this week?
- What could I not do that no one will even notice, apart from me?
- Where am I making things hard for myself? Maybe trying too hard to please others?
- What am I craving more of, and how can I do some of it this week?
Maybe you need a massage or a lunch with friends. Or maybe you need time out on the sofa. If so, I’m giving you permission to go watch Dumplin’ on Netflix right now.
In the meantime if you want to book some future ‘me’ time, I want to invite you to my Mindfulness + Intention Setting Workshop on Saturday 19th Januaryat Happy Melon Studios, Armadale.
This relaxing and informal workshop is ideal if you want to create aligned intentions for next year, and learn strategies to help you create positive changes in your life. Book here.
Whatever you’re up to over the break, I want to wish you a very restful, merry and joy-filled holiday season 🙂
‘If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.’ Siddhārtha Gautama
How often do you stop yourself from making changes in your life because you don’t know what to do?
Sometimes it’s appropriate to take time out and reflect on our dreams and desires, so we can find our sense of direction again.
Most of the time though this confusion is not even real. It’s just a construct of the mind, an attachment to the need to know everything now.
Confusion helps to keep us safe. It clouds our judgement and prevents us from making decisions that lead us to something new.
Not sure if this is what’s going on for you?
Ask yourself if you have a pattern of putting your plans on hold because you feel confused about what to do next.
The confusion is caused by a false assumption because of course we can never be certain about the choices we make.
But the confusion feels real. So how can you shift out of this state?
Start to notice where it stops you and investigate what’s really going on. Is it an underlying fear? A lack of confidence? Or just an old story about not knowing what to do?
Whatever you discover, make a conscious decision to let it go.
It’s safe to make choices without knowing how things will turn out.
Just tell yourself, I am no longer confused.
Let the fog lift. How does it feel to be free?
You know what to do. You always did. Let truth whisper the answer in your ear.
PS: If you need some help to find your direction, there are still some tickets left for my Transform your Career workshop on Tuesday. We’ll be working on dreams, desires and important mindset shifts for change. Book your spot here.
A couple of years after I moved to Melbourne I finally got myself a car.
There was no such as thing as Google Maps back then, and relying solely on the Melways (remember Melways?) and my gut instinct, I was forever lost and running late.
The same thing was happening to a friend who had migrated from the US but her response was different to mine.
Where I would panic, get off at the nearest exit and make myself even later by driving around in circles, my friend would just stay on the road.
So how does that work out for you? I wanted to know.
Well the worst that can happen is I discover a part of Melbourne I didn’t know before, she said. But I know I’ll eventually find a sign and figure out where I’m going.
It struck me as a much better strategy for navigating the freeway system.
Stay on the road. Watch out for signs. Just keep driving.
There are times in our lives when we all feel a bit lost.
Maybe you know you need to make changes in your life, but you can’t see the possibilities yet.
We crave certainty and navigating the mystery of not knowing what’s next can be tough.
It’s also the time when we’re prone to making decisions we later regret, by forcing answers to our questions when they may not be ready to come. We decide it has to be this course, this job or this business idea. We would do anything rather than not know.
Before we make those decisions we need to be conscious of our dreams and what we really want, which is why this forms a core part of the work I do with clients (and also in this upcoming Melbourne workshop).
It’s amazing how unconscious our desires can be. If I told you right now you could have any job you wanted in the world, would you know what to choose? Or would you feel even more lost?
Allowing ourselves to be with the unknown is an important part of the process of change. This is not the same as procrastinating over a decision. Instead we’re allowing new seeds to take root, fresh plans to form. A gestation period is required.
So what can you do when you feel lost?
The best advice I’ve come across is to focus on what you do know about what you want, even if you’re just scraping away a corner to reveal a tiny edge of the big picture.
If you know that you want more freedom or you want to be more creative in your work, ask where can you give yourself that experience now, even if it’s just for one hour a week.
Watch out for signs that you’re on the right track, nudges giving you a heads up about where to explore next. Let curiosity be your guide.
The more you can tune into your internal compass the more oriented you’ll become and this is when the big picture does slowly start to reveal itself.
It requires patience and self-compassion to travel without a map. Feeling lost is a given, wrong turns inevitable.
But if you can stay on the road and resist the urge to turn off at every exit, you might just find yourself on the adventure of your life.
PS: If you’re feeling a bit lost with your career and you’d like to explore these ideas further, join me for the Transform your Career Workshop in Melbourne on 25th September. You can book tickets here.